Over the next few weeks, I will share Mum’s secrets for over-coming her sadness, and embracing “my essence” in her everyday life, after I crossed OTRB September, 2009. I was a happy guy who took life bythe paws ! After lots of training from me, Mum finally understands what living in the essence of your own Pal means. (This article was originally written May 20th, 2011.)
Dear Staff, we are so sorry for your pain. We know your heart is heavy and overcome with sadness, so we invite you to spend time here with us. Let us help you learn to feel the warmth of the sun on your face again; and in your heart. Let us help you remember how to smile again.
Each one of us were really happy pets. Individually, we took life by the paws and lived it. When we were happy and healthy, you were wonderful to us. When you realized we had become ill, you did your very best to help us; you even took us to the vet doctor. No-one could do more than that.
Sometimes we get ill and sometimes we just don’t have the strength to make it through our illness. Sometimes things happen, that no-one understands. Not even us.
When I died Mum knew in her heart that she did the right thing, having me put to sleep. But she still worried for a LONG time, that “what if” she hadn’t done that ? Maybe I’d still be there with her; just like you worry about your pal. It is natural to blame yourself, even for a long time. I know this because I work with many OTRB Pals and their families.
I call grief an “unwelcome visitor” because it puts you on it’s crazy roller-coaster of emotions where you can feel OK, then boom, it hits you again. When I passed away Mum was devastated, as you are too. Time didn’t seem to make any difference; she still felt like nothing would ever bring her true joy again. Months later Mum still felt like this. It took Mum a long time before she listened to me. BOL !
Over the next few weeks I will share “MY” secrets to overcoming sadness and what a difference it made to Mum when she began to embrace “my essence” in her everyday life. We don’t want you to spend the rest of your days crying. We were happy! We want you to be happy and remember all the fun times you shared together.
The next few articles in this series, “Letters For Staff”, will uplift and hopefully inspire you to look at things in a new light, which will help you REMEMBER all your happy times together.
An inner calmness with come over you, your heart will OPEN UP and your mind will relax. Time and space does not change anything…..nothing can separate us from our own “forever family.” We are not gone, we are everywhere, but most of all we live on in our own ‘forever family’s’ heart. Your Pal knows you still love them and they love you too and will never forget you.
One day when you find yourself unexpectedly standing on the Rainbow Bridge, your Pal will be there waiting to meet you, and both of you will never to be separated again. A ‘forever family’, forever. Meanwhile, your Pal is spending their time surrounded by buddies and together we laugh and play and nom, sleep and then do it all again. They love you and know you still love them too. They will never forget you ! *leans out of Pram* What a view !
Here are some of our Signature Songs:
“Somewhere Over The Rainbow” by Israel Kamakawiwo ♫ http://blip.fm/~til82
“Born Free” sung by Andy Williams ♫ http://blip.fm/~tjpft
“The Dance” for all Staff ♫ http://blip.fm/~tjrb0